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Jun 22Liked by Summer Koester

This could be the most reasoned, unflinching, compassionate essay on this far reaching topic ever digested by this cis-het reader hungry for truth over hysteria. Thank you, Summer.

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Awesome John! Thank you so much! 💕

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Jun 21Liked by Summer Koester

That Julia Serano quote is the perfect capper to this excellent piece. THANKS AS ALWAYS!!!

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Thanks as always, Skipp <3

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One more thing. Prison is prison. No one is safe - no one, not even the gang members. Sexual abuse is widespread. The vulnerable are easier targets. Only a complete overhaul of our prison systems will rectify this.

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Yes, this is so true. My friend just became the corrections officer and he said in the prisons there is no such thing as consent.

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Jun 22Liked by Summer Koester

My breath, my life, my novel, so well done Summer. You’ve inspired me to keep telling my story. Thank you

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Yes, queen! Thank you so much for your words! Keep writing and now I need to read your book! 💕

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Good one Summer! I really appreciate your angle on this issue.

Also, from a purely practical point of view, the bathroom question has never made sense to me. Women’s bathrooms always have stalls. Men’s bathrooms obviously do too but fewer. It seems like it would be more of a problem for transmen than transwomen if you just have to pee. (Clearly I’m operating off of a hypothetical understanding of the matter).

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Good point! Thank you Camille 💕

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Thank you so much for letting us learn and discover the facts that can make us better people.

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Thank you, Brien!

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It is I that thank you 😊

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Honestly, I don't think that middle-aged cis white women are afraid of getting jumped by a transgender woman in a public bathroom, and I'm almost 100% sure they don't care about violent assault in women's or men's prisons.

These are my peers, and I see it all the time. We are the daughters of 2nd wave feminists who were brought up on the fairytale that we could grow up to be whatever we wanted as long as we worked longer and harder than men. Our mother's had no concept of intersectionality, (wasn't all that race stuff taken care of during the Civil Rights Movement anyway?), and felt the last protected class in the US were (white) women.

Their main problem was that they sought to insert themselves into the existing soul sucking capitalist system (produce, produce, produce) instead of creating a more humane socialist-like infrastructure for everyone. My peers are raging because no one told them they were going to have to work 60 hours/wk in the office AND do all of the emotional, mental and physical labor at home. Okay, maybe some men take ownership of the physical labor like grilling or taking out the garbage.

White women like their privilege and they're (we're?) not willing to share it with anyone born with a penis. "What's that you say? Science says gender identity is in the brain not the genitals? Like we're going to believe that! Next thing you'll tell us is vaccines save lives!" Okay, I went a little off the rails there, but look at who doesn't want to vaccinate their kids in the US.

This is my observation among my cohort of white Gen-X women in general. Of course there are exceptions (me) but like you I make mistakes and get a lot of stuff wrong. I just feel the need to call bullsh*t on the bathroom and prison fears because that's not the reason for their discrimination.

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I’ll look him up, thank you! Thank you for your words, Maggie! Spot On!

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Oops them duh 🙄 sorry

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